Thursday Morning Coffee Chat


[9:17 AM]

I’m sure I can speak for almost all of us when I say that it’s incredibly difficult to wake up in the darkness of the morning and get yourself all the way to work. With these cold temperatures on the east coast right now it’s even more unpleasant.

While I was refusing to get out of my bed this morning I was thinking about timelines. Everyone has their own path and goals and aspirations. I see a lot of this as I have graduated recently, and have friend’s leaving college in the next few years. I see them making plans to live together, plans to move far away and start a new life, or all work for the same company. I used to be right there with them, until I realized that life doesn’t work that way.

I had a whole plan to be in an entirely different situation than I am right now. Living in LA with four people having a grand time. And here I am, 3 months past the time I promised myself I’d be in California, working in a job I never thought I’d do.

Life is funny. The plans you make to get to your goal will almost never happen exactly as you’d imagine. If you hustle hard enough, and believe big enough, you’ll reach your goal. Somehow, someway, but definitely not how you would think.

I’ve decided to detach myself from everyone who’s making promises to one another and not fully doing what they want because they’re following the pack. Following the pack will get you zero satisfaction and you’ll most likely end up living someone else’s dream.

If you separate yourself and create your own destiny, odd’s are your journey will be a heck of a lot more special.



Remember this, and always keep moving!


*She Believed She Could, So She Did*


How To: Beat The Winter Blue’s


Most of us are probably quite familiar with this feeling. The days are dark for too long and light for too little. When you wake up the sun is down and when you leave work the sun is gone. It’s always cold, and all you’re inclined to do is sit inside by the fireplace, or underneath 40 blankets to try and keep warm. It tends to feel like the longest time of the year. If you live anywhere where there are all four seasons then you understand what I mean.

Some refer to the winter blue’s as seasonal depression. Whatever you may call it, there are key ways you can beat this complex time of year.

  1. Go Outside: I really like the simplicity of this one. As I collected some of these ideas, I spoke to my friends to see how they deal with the winter time, and most of them agreed that staying inside was the most comforting thing, but also the dreariest. As human beings, we need to step outside and soak in the outdoors, as this can immediately boost our mood. Within a few hours of waking up, I would say even taking a walk outside just to get some air can make you feel more productive than sitting at home in the dark.
  2. Brighten Up Your House: Keeping your space dark and your blinds closed is only going to make your “blah’s” worse. I am a culprit of doing so, but I love leaving my blinds closed for whatever reason, maybe because it helps me hibernate easier. Regardless, my mom always reminds me to get sunlight into my room, and reduce my clutter, so that I’m not overwhelmed and distracted.
  3. Keep Busy: This is something else I really struggle with, especially because it gets dark at 4pm! It’s so easy to make an excuse to not go to a party, or give your friends a raincheck on dinner. Your friends and family are guaranteed to brighten your mood far more than rolling around on the couch watching reruns of How I Met Your Mother.
  4. Stay Active: Your mood is immediately enhanced when you get your mind moving and your body grooving (so cheesy I know, but hear me out). It’s easy to go right home from work and cuddle into bed, but forcing yourself to take care of your body in the winter is one of the most crucial part of these steps. And also, working on your summer body in the winter isn’t such a bad idea, is it!
  5. Get Enough Sleep: My favorite of all. People tend to greatly overlook the power of a solid night sleep. Not only is it good for you physically, and emotionally but mentally too. All around getting rest is something your body needs, wants, and greatly appreciates. Preferably going to bed at the same time each night can only make things better.

With just a little bit of extra effort and a whole coffee pot of motivation, you can fight these blue’s and feel fabulous about it too. I must say, after taking some of my own advice, I’m feeling shockingly more upbeat this winter than I have felt in a long time.

Good luck.


“She Believed She Could, So She Did.”

Feeling Alone For Christmas.


Hello Friends, and Happy Holidays!

Today is Christmas Day (clearly I’m publishing this a few days later). And I am sitting at home, in front of my fireplace and Christmas tree, reflecting on my past year.

I find that as I get older, the holidays seem to get more and more melancholy. Especially the year of college graduation, when so many simultaneous changes are happening. And so many things are sitting still, and not moving.

I’m motivated to use 2017 as a kick starter to making 2018 my year. And yes, I said that last year but sometimes you just can’t control fate, motivation, and the lack of resources you may have to go full speed ahead. But you bet I’m going to put things in line for this year! As of now I already have trips planned, emails sent, and appointments booked because I’m destined to make myself the person I strive to be.

Life is so short, and I would hate to have 2019 coming around the corner and once again be saying, “Boy, this year just flew by didn’t it?” without having any tangible proud accomplishments on the table.

Now is the time to set forth on the path you’ve been meaning to take, no matter how hard that adventure may be.

I know that for this coming year, I look forward to getting a step closer to my dream career, acquiring my own living space, and feeling more financially secure.

I know those are broad and vague, but at least two of the three can be somewhat accomplished in my opinion. My journey starts now! The tricky part will be staying positive, but it’s like I always tell myself:

She Believed She Could So She Did.”

Thank you for being a part of this strange yet personal online corner of the internet I share. Cheers to a new start.



The Ultimate Routine.

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It’s an on-going phenomenon. Now that I’ve entered what many refer to as “the real world,” I’m noticing more and more the daily occurrence of most adults. Taking mental notes, if you will. Get up, put on work clothes, sit in traffic, go to work, stay late at work, go home, cook, clean, go to bed. I mean, what kind of lifestyle is that?

A good percentage of the adults partaking in this drying routine dislike their life to some extent: whether it be their job, the people involved, or something else.

I’ve been working for a grand total of two months and so far noticing how I’m slowly being affected. My mother will text me nearly every evening asking when she should expect me home and I constantly have to respond back with a classic “I’m working late tonight (again)”. Not to mention the hour or so commute back home. And no, this is not me complaining or asking for a pity party. What I am doing is recognizing that the daily routine of the average American stinks. You spend a majority of your young adult life going to school, doing homework and generally being carefree. And bam, a few months later, you’re suddenly thrown into this entirely new bubble.

I’m also aware that it’s currently super trendy and annoying to the general public when millennials talk about how they don’t want to work because of x, y, and z. But before you judge the majority of the younger generations, take in account that there could possibly be some validity to this statement. Whatever the reasoning may be, it’s not necessarily us being lazy or unmotivated. There could also be a fear of routine. A fear that once you step foot in that pool of water, you’re stuck. A fear that you’ll have to take the first job offer you get and maybe you’ll never actually use the degree you took out $50,000 plus in loans for. It’s an extremely valid fear to have. One that I am currently living within right now.

I encourage any of you who have not opened the door to the full fledged working world to avoid the routine. No, I’m not saying don’t earn a living. But I am saying, don’t earn a living just to pay the bills. If you’ve got one life to live you surely should do just that. Live.

Until next time,


*She believed she could so she did*



It’s Okay To Not Have A Plan.



Hello Friends!

As you may or may not have read recently on my blog, I have officially graduated from my university. I am off in the world, and ready to take on the real world. Or, so I thought…

In my mind, I always imagined myself graduating with a job, and a place to live all for myself. I imagined myself having money in the bank, and living my absolute best life.

That is not the reality of the situation. I am currently back home, and I have been for about two weeks now. I have no full time job lined up. I have very little funds. My diploma hasn’t even been mailed to me yet. I am just here. Taking on the days as they come to me. I could be really sad, upset, and depressed about this right? Especially while some of my friends are already off, moving places, traveling the world or working.

But, I have a clear set goal and direction in my mind. I know what I want. I know what I love to do. I know where I want to move to. I know how much money I need in order to do so. I was extremely stressed for the first week of being home. Paranoid that things weren’t happening quickly enough. I still feel anxious about it.

I’ve calmed down though. It took a lot of people to engrain this into my brain, but I’ve been learning recently, how to live. Yes, I don’t have a job. Yes, I am home. Okay, great. But I am so blessed. Blessed to be living back in my childhood house with my mom. Blessed to be able to go wherever I want, whenever I want. Blessed to have friends that I can drive and see whenever I want to. Blessed that I have a family who takes care of me, and vise versa.

Life couldn’t be better. I told my mom last night, that this is probably the only time in my life that I will be able to live this way. Not worry about finances. Live in a beautiful home and have someone pay for me. And take care of me. It just doesn’t get better than this. I am eternally grateful. So, I have been spending my free time post graduation reflecting on my life. Looking at all that I have accomplished and thinking about what I want to accomplish next.

Life is so short, and so full. We can’t simply keep going going going, or else we’re going to miss it all.

Do you have a plan? Great! Don’t have a plan? Wonderful! Even better. Every day will be a surprise. Congratulations! That’s the best kind of journey.

Until next time,

Bella 🙂

~She believed she could, so she did~

Bad Habits You Need To Quit Now.

Hello Friends!

This afternoon I was casually scrolling through my Facebook feed and I came across this and really stared at it for awhile until it registered.


I wasn’t having the best day until I read this and realized that there are certain things in life you cannot control, and that’s perfectly okay. Worrying over every little thing will age you quicker and ultimately make you a miserable person to be around and who wants that.

So give yourself time to reflect on these key points on this beautiful Sunday afternoon and put yourself in check. If you’re guilty of any of these things, then quit them and do it now.

Until next time,