Thursday Morning Coffee Chat

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[9:17 AM]

I’m sure I can speak for almost all of us when I say that it’s incredibly difficult to wake up in the darkness of the morning and get yourself all the way to work. With these cold temperatures on the east coast right now it’s even more unpleasant.

While I was refusing to get out of my bed this morning I was thinking about timelines. Everyone has their own path and goals and aspirations. I see a lot of this as I have graduated recently, and have friend’s leaving college in the next few years. I see them making plans to live together, plans to move far away and start a new life, or all work for the same company. I used to be right there with them, until I realized that life doesn’t work that way.

I had a whole plan to be in an entirely different situation than I am right now. Living in LA with four people having a grand time. And here I am, 3 months past the time I promised myself I’d be in California, working in a job I never thought I’d do.

Life is funny. The plans you make to get to your goal will almost never happen exactly as you’d imagine. If you hustle hard enough, and believe big enough, you’ll reach your goal. Somehow, someway, but definitely not how you would think.

I’ve decided to detach myself from everyone who’s making promises to one another and not fully doing what they want because they’re following the pack. Following the pack will get you zero satisfaction and you’ll most likely end up living someone else’s dream.

If you separate yourself and create your own destiny, odd’s are your journey will be a heck of a lot more special.

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Remember this, and always keep moving!

~Bella

*She Believed She Could, So She Did*

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How To: Beat The Winter Blue’s

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Most of us are probably quite familiar with this feeling. The days are dark for too long and light for too little. When you wake up the sun is down and when you leave work the sun is gone. It’s always cold, and all you’re inclined to do is sit inside by the fireplace, or underneath 40 blankets to try and keep warm. It tends to feel like the longest time of the year. If you live anywhere where there are all four seasons then you understand what I mean.

Some refer to the winter blue’s as seasonal depression. Whatever you may call it, there are key ways you can beat this complex time of year.

  1. Go Outside: I really like the simplicity of this one. As I collected some of these ideas, I spoke to my friends to see how they deal with the winter time, and most of them agreed that staying inside was the most comforting thing, but also the dreariest. As human beings, we need to step outside and soak in the outdoors, as this can immediately boost our mood. Within a few hours of waking up, I would say even taking a walk outside just to get some air can make you feel more productive than sitting at home in the dark.
  2. Brighten Up Your House: Keeping your space dark and your blinds closed is only going to make your “blah’s” worse. I am a culprit of doing so, but I love leaving my blinds closed for whatever reason, maybe because it helps me hibernate easier. Regardless, my mom always reminds me to get sunlight into my room, and reduce my clutter, so that I’m not overwhelmed and distracted.
  3. Keep Busy: This is something else I really struggle with, especially because it gets dark at 4pm! It’s so easy to make an excuse to not go to a party, or give your friends a raincheck on dinner. Your friends and family are guaranteed to brighten your mood far more than rolling around on the couch watching reruns of How I Met Your Mother.
  4. Stay Active: Your mood is immediately enhanced when you get your mind moving and your body grooving (so cheesy I know, but hear me out). It’s easy to go right home from work and cuddle into bed, but forcing yourself to take care of your body in the winter is one of the most crucial part of these steps. And also, working on your summer body in the winter isn’t such a bad idea, is it!
  5. Get Enough Sleep: My favorite of all. People tend to greatly overlook the power of a solid night sleep. Not only is it good for you physically, and emotionally but mentally too. All around getting rest is something your body needs, wants, and greatly appreciates. Preferably going to bed at the same time each night can only make things better.

With just a little bit of extra effort and a whole coffee pot of motivation, you can fight these blue’s and feel fabulous about it too. I must say, after taking some of my own advice, I’m feeling shockingly more upbeat this winter than I have felt in a long time.

Good luck.

~Bella

“She Believed She Could, So She Did.”

Dear 2018.

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We hear this concept all the time. Every year that the clock strikes midnight, you’ve got that group of optimistic people at the party saying that this year is the year they’re going to fly and thrive! And sometimes they stick to that motivational feeling, and other times it fades away, and another year fly’s by with you feeling just as disheartened as the previous.

I’ve always felt that as the years passed by, nothing ever changed. I went from one year of school to the next, and my goals were always the same: keep my grades up, don’t spend too much money, call home often, and don’t die at a frat party.

This year truly is the beginning of my adulthood, as it is my first year out of college, and my first year in an adult job. A lot has changed from 2017 to 2018 just within a few short months.

I think I’m at a point in my life where I’m truly capable of making a change, for the better. If you feel like this is your year too, don’t hesitate to create a game plan and get moving. Waiting until you’re ready isn’t ideal, because we all remember how fast 2017 went by, so just imagine how quickly it will be until we start counting down to 2019.

That being said. I have a few things to say to our new friend, 2018.

Dear 2018,

It feels surreal that we’re in a year as crazy as this one. We’ve made it this far, and there’s so many things to do. I have so much hope for these next 356 days.

I hope that instead of agreeing as a community that our planet is dying, we do all we can to save it.

I hope that our governmental system doesn’t go down in flames and can be resurrected from the deep hole of anguish it currently seems to be in.

I hope that I can be in a position in my life where I wake up every morning not dreading my alarm clock.

I hope that the tasks I call work are something I am in love with, and add to the creative bucket of art that the world currently holds.

I hope that I can be in a position where I allow myself to travel more than once in a blue moon, and that I can see more of the world and expand my knowledge of culture.

I hope that I can thrive in a setting I call home, and begin my own life and newfound happiness.

I hope that my friends, family and loved ones all achieve these things and truly understand what it means to live for themselves, and live in the moment, because the clock is ticking and you never know when the time will be up.

I hope.

~Bella.

 

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